A Beautiful day to you. I have my first guest writer today. Can't wait to share her piece! Her name is Nissi inspiration Adeola, she's a. Writer and generally a lady of many talents, I hope you enjoy her piece as much as I did and don't forget to leave a comment after you read.
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I am Nissi Inspiration Adeola, a fiction and non-fiction writer, series and articles blogger and novelist. I am a gospel vocalist and a great lover of books and music. I blog at Inspy's World.
THE SCAR
Women are made to feel insecure and inferior by virtue of what they witness and experience. Especially living in a country like ours where all you see is a terrain where men treat women however they deem fit, women tend to suffer in silence, take whatever is tossed to them by men and painstakingly mend their shattered hearts afterwards. However, despite how hard we try to mend broken hearts, it leaves a scar which serves as a constant reminder of the pain you were subjected to. You would assume that I am writing my personal experience… No! Not mine…
Jumoke! A wonderful friend is the perfect example of a Nigerian woman. She has a beautiful body with great curves in all the right places, she is of moderate height, with a round face and shoulder-length hair; literally, she was the desire of most men. Beautiful as she is, she got admitted into University of Lagos and her ultimate ambition, like any sensible student, was to study and graduate with outstanding grades. She started off, warding off men in order to focus squarely on her studies, but hey, she could not keep that up for long because, like most women out there, she obviously had dreams of getting married one day.
In her second year, Jummy had already gotten through the first-year fever and was a bit relaxed. Then came Bayo! Seemingly like an angel, he was the perfect figure of the man she needed in her life - handsome to the sole of his feet, jovial and easy to talk to, hardworking, financially stable and most importantly, he also took his studies very seriously. He was the perfect man! Love at first sight instantly became real to her because she fell in love with him instantly! After the necessary probation women subject men to after being wooed, she accepted him and thus began their love journey…
The couple became the toast of everyone in campus because they were so close, almost inseparable. Bayo never gave Jummy a breathing space, driving away suitors but Jumoke was contented as long as she had her Bayo by her side. He filled her head with delicious thoughts and she found herself daydreaming often about marriage with Bayo even though he hadn’t ‘popped the question’. Just like every relationship, they definitely had their ups and downs, however, after close to two years of dating, the frowns on their faces were becoming more than the smiles. It was their final year in school and due to her great ability to interact freely with everyone; Jumoke had so many friends especially guys. The ever-jealous Bayo grew even more jealous, signaling the beginning of the end.
Bayo saw her fame and beauty as a threat and hastily accused her of flirting around anytime she as much as smiled at a man. They slowly drifted apart and Jumoke became worried. She suspected he had another woman and was trying to look for excuses to end their relationship but she was not certain. She had been overlooking some pictures she found in his phone, not wanting to acceptthat it was real. However, she got her answer when she found him with another woman.
One would assume that this is enough reason to quit, but no! She did not. Even after being advised by friends to leave the relationship if she is not being valued, she still stuck to him. Her love for him had grown so strong, it seemed impossible to leave the relationship. There were so many men seeking her hand in marriage but she turned a blind eye to them all, having eyes for only one man, even though he never for once mentioned a thing about marriage. After persuading Bayo to send the woman in his house away and he did not, she eventually opted out of the relationship. However, whenever someone starts pursuing her, seeking her attention and love, Bayo would pop-in again, beg for forgiveness and she would accept him back. They broke up over and over again but never really got separated from each other – love can make us do weird things right? However, it all came to a halt when they were out of school and in the real world.
Undiluted pain tore at Jumoke when Bayo finally shattered her heart into a million pieces. After their convocation, he told her that she was of no importance to him anymore, telling her that he had found a woman who meets up to his standard and that she was just a mere side attraction. Her world virtually came to a halt as the words hit her like a thousand knives. Never in her wildest imagination did she think he would say such a thing to her. Like a river, tears flowed. Days passed, weeks passed, even months; yet, she could not get past the pain. She wondered where she had gone wrong, what she should have done differently; but the more she reminisced, the more the pain. Time flew and the pain faded but there was still something left; the heartbreak left something. A scar…
Women are priceless gifts to humanity to be loved and cherished. Just like a precious flower, a woman needs to be handled with care and tenderness. Many women have gone through severe heartbreaks and have in-turn developed inferiority complex, however, we can make a difference in our world. Walking out of relationships which are below the standard of God for your life shows maturity and self-respect. Leave a man who does not value you because surely, the man you deserve is a man who would treat you like a queen, respect you and love you unconditionally. You are special, beautiful and priceless. Your past relationship might have left you with a scar, be glad it did, because the woman you have become is stronger and wiser.
Nissi Inspiration
